“The more relaxed you are, the better you are at everything: the better you are with your loved ones, the better you are with enemies, the better you are at your job, the better you are with yourself.”

Dude, I can get wound up and in a hurry.  It doesn’t take me long to get pissed.  But, I do think that I am getting better.  Some topics and some happenings get me wound quicker than others.  I have lots of Bill Murray quotes, but they are normally from some movie.  Especially Carl Spackler quotes.  But the opening is one of my favorite and it ain’t from a movie.  It’s just a BFM quote.

The older that I get, the more it concerns me when I hear the quote, “We are on a mission to win…whatever.”  The mission should not be to win a show.  The mission should be to use a livestock animal as a vehicle to teach a kid how to work towards a goal while learning work ethic, finances ( yeah, stop that.  The value of putting work in towards earning a dollar or two. That part is priceless.) and animal knowledge as well as people knowledge.  That’s the true mission statement.

The goal to win a show is an absolute must.  Every showman needs to feel the thrill of winning their first county, jackpot, maybe a district show and very, very, very few ever know the feeling of winning a state show.  The goal to make a first premium sale, ride in the limo, hang a banner, win a class, make the sift, whatever the goal(s), please, please set those goals and work towards them.  They are all highly commendable and highly, highly recommended.  However, the “mission” to win a show, just to prove a point, normally ends up in too many $s being spent, rules being bent/broken, people pissed off.  It is for all the wrong reasons.  A person can lose sight.  Dude, I’ve been there.  I know the feeling. I get it. It ain’t right.  And it is almost ALWAYS the adults that make these mission statements.  Not the kids.

I will guarantee you that if you leave the kids in charge, talk to them, ask them their goals, things get pretty real.  You will quickly realize that YOUR goals are NOT their goals.  And, their goals are actually better.  My favorite son may be the death of me, but he has dang sure made me realize what the true priorities in life are.  I guarantee that many adults as well as his friends will attest to this.  The dude stays pretty chill.

Kela had goat showing goals of being in every grand drive for a year.  She did that several times.  And people, that wasn’t an easy goal.  She won a few of those shows, was reserve grand at many more and managed to consistently be in those grand drives.

Duke’s goals have been harder.  Partially because his dad/ag teacher has became a liability.  But, I haven’t failed him yet.

I gotta include at least one Bill Murray line from Caddyshack.

“Cinderella story. Outta nowhere. A former greenskeeper, now, about to become the Masters champion. It looks like a mirac… It’s in the hole! It’s in the hole! It’s in the hole!”


Okay, just one more.

“Licensed to kill gophers by the government of the United Nations. A man, free to kill gophers at will. To kill, you must know your enemy, and in this case my enemy is a varmint. And a varmint will never quit – ever. They’re like the Viet Cong – Varmint Cong. So you have to fall back on superior intelligence and superior firepower. And that’s all she wrote. ”


I don’t have the superior firepower and my intelligence is suspect.  But, I am on a journey with my family and friends.  We’ll just see how it ends.  Who knows?  There may be a Baby Ruth at the end.   At least for somebody. Have a good one and a better tomorrow.

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